Brilliantly Resilient

Episode 209: Mindfulness and Honoring the Pause with Shawnta Hooks

"I needed to embark on a journey to reclaim my connection, both personally and professionally." Shawnta Hooks ~ Leading Belonging and Mindfulness Speaker. Shawnta Hooks was never a believer in meditation or mindfulness. Working in accounting and corporate compliance during her 20 year corporate career, Shawnta found herself in a toxic work environment after a company reorganization, feeling completely disconnected, unseen and unheard. Her first instinct was to lay blame on the company, until she realized it wasn't entirely her work environment that was causing her challenges. Having just lost her father and become a new mom, Shawnta realized that she was not only disconnected from her work, she was disconnected from herself. Aware of a "crushing pressure to contatntly perform," both professionally an personally, Shawnta realized she had some work to do, and set out to learn how to reconnect to her world. Her search led her to meditation and mindfulness, and "honoring the pause"--that moment of neutrality between our thoughts and actions, when we can more accurately assess our feelings and behaviors. Now a leading authority in building connection and mindfulness in corporate America, Shawnta notes that while words like mindfulness and authenticity may not seem to fit into business, many organizations are embracing the opportunity to help their employees find connection through mindfulness, or as Shawnta notes, "Paying attention to the present moment, on purpose, without judgement." Being Brilliantly Resilient requires checking our perceptions and telling ourselves the truth, which fits well with Shawnta's advice. During this hectic time of year, consider beginning a meditation practice, even of only a few minutes a day. Seek mindfulness and neutrality, avoiding judgements (especially as emotions run high around the holidays.) Check out this week's podcast to hear more of Shawnta's Brilliance. Visit her website at https://www.shawntahooks.com/ and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: There is a huge impact that moments of calm can have on your productivity, on your focus, on your ability to operate at peak performance. When employees feel more connected to their environments, they produce greater results and one way that you can get employees to feel connected to their environment is to help them learn how to be connected to the present moment. Belonging requires connection and you can't do that if you stay in your own little box. For me, belonging is really when you, as an individual feel heard and supported in your environment. Just because you think a thought doesn't mean you have to believe it. This is about honoring your emotions. Emotions are clues. By not honoring that, you're missing an opportunity to connect with another. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran

Episode 208: New Book! From Broken to Brilliant: How to Live a Brilliantly Resilient Life, with Mary Fran Bontempo

You have everything in you already to live a Brilliantly Resilient life. You have Resilience and you have your own personal Brilliance. It's already there. You were born with both of those things. ~ Mary Fran Bontempo, Author, From Broken to Brilliant: How to Live a Brilliantly Resilient Life Have you uncovered your Resilience yet? Since Covid, we've been reminded constantly about the need for resilience, as though every day, we must gird for battle before we wander into the unknown terrors of the world. Truthfully, that scenario doesn't seem that far-fetched anymore. If you've followed Brilliantly Resilient for any amount of time, you know I believe that life can hit hard, and unexpectedly. Almost everyone can offer a story to back that up. The good news is that we already have everything we need within us to not only navigate life's challenges with Resilience, but we can discover our Brilliance within those challenges as well. My new book, From Broken to Brilliant: How to Live a Brilliantly Resilient Life, provides a roadmap to learn how to Reset with Resilience, Rise through challenges, and Reveal your Brilliance—a Brilliance that shows itself when it feels like things can't get much worse. As I come up on the five-year anniversary of the founding of Brilliantly Resilient, I'm more convinced than ever that the simple steps in the Reset, Rise and Reveal process can guide anyone through rough times, and provide the light we need to move forward. The book contains not only my thoughts, but the generously shared wit and wisdom provided by over 30 Brilliantly Resilient podcast guests, who, in their own words, affirm that a Brilliantly Resilient life can be ours if we live with intention. In addition to much shared wisdom, the book offers some thought-provoking questions at the end of each chapter—for you to navigate YOUR challenges. Because yes, this is all about YOU. From Broken to Brilliant is now available on Amazon, and makes a perfect holiday gift. Check out this podcast for more info, or head over to www.brilliantlyresilient.net or www.maryfranbontempo.com. And be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance (if I do say so myself!!!) This book is the road map. It gives you steps that are so simple and easy and what you're going to realize is that you're already doing this stuff. You're already doing it, you just have to be intentional about it. Recognize that you're doing it (being Brilliantly Resilient) and build that foundation from that. When we experience a big crisis, we want a big solution. Unfortunately, that doesn't happen. You don't get the big solution with a big crisis. A crisis is solved by small, imperfect action steps. Failure becomes associated with shame, and we forget that failure is part of resilience. You have to try things. You have to get up and try them again. But when we associate failure with shame, then we don't try. And that's when we forget that we have this inborn resilience. There's no judgment about what your crisis or your challenges are. There's no judgment because it's yours. Everything that you're going through refers back to you. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. It's your crisis. The reset with resilience encompasses 3 things. It encompasses your values. It encompasses your perception or your perspective, and it encompasses controlling the controllables. Build your tribe. You can't be brilliantly resilient in a vacuum. You need to access your tribe. Taking imperfect action means you are willing to recognize that the actions not perfect, and guess what? The outcome is not probably going to be. Buy the book and do let me know what you think. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! Best, Mary Fran

Episode 207: Finding the Brilliance and Resilience in Generational Relationships with ”Gentelligence” Author, Dr. Megan Gerhardt

Let's have smarter intergenerational conversations. Let's be OK and not threatened by the fact that you see this differently than me. Let's figure out why and how that could actually be helpful and beneficial.  Dr. Megan Gerhardt Author of Gentelligence: The Revolutionary Approach to Leading an Intergenerational Workforce Do you work with people of different generations? Do you live with people of different generations? Do you have public contact with people of different generations?  Unless you live alone on an island, the answer to at least one, if not all, of these questions is yes. And in your interactions with those of different generations, it's almost certain that you've experienced some form generational conflict. Dr. Megan Gerhardt is a Professor of Management and Leadership at the Farmer School of Business at Miami University, and the author of Gentelligence: The Revolutionary Approach to Leading an Intergenerational Workforce. As an expert in generational differences, Dr. Gerhardt teaches individuals and corporations simple, effective strategies for not only bridging the generation gap, but encouraging all generations to bring their particular resilience and brilliance to create connection and build respect.  According to Dr. Gerhardt, the best way to build connections is by asking respectful questions. The best question to ask? "Can you help me understand?" By phrasing the question in a non-judgmental way, Dr. Gerhardt says, "I'm signaling that what you're doing is not making sense to me, but I'm acknowledging it might in part be my understanding of what's going on. And I would love to get to a different place." Given that every generation brings their own skills, knowledge and perspective to the table, respect and inclusivity can result in more understanding and better solutions to problems, especially when everyone brings their own experiences, resilience and brilliance along. For more on Gentelligence, tune into this week's episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, order the book, and look for these additional bits of Brilliance: I am a organizational psychologist really by training. So my nature is to always be curious about people, why they do what they do, how do we help them leverage what's unique about them in order to help them do work they care about and add value. How do we change the narrative so that instead of shaming people for being born in a different generation…they're starting their career at a different time. We are really trying to learn from those complementary experiences and kinds of expertise and we're taking advantage of it. Every few years there's an article that comes out saying, let's stop putting people in generational categories…I don't think that's the answer…. It's better than being biased against people because of their age or their generation, but then you're ignoring all of that wonderful, very valid difference that comes with growing up and starting your career during a different period of time and a different period in history. And that's real. Let's have smarter intergenerational conversations. Let's be OK and not threatened by the fact that you see this differently than me. Let's figure out why and how that could actually be helpful and beneficial.  If I ask you a question and that feels very respectful. I'm not assuming I'm not judging, I'm asking because I'm interested. You're worth it. I think there's something of value there that I want to engage with. And then there's learning and hopefully that's reciprocated.  Is there a question that works universally? Absolutely. My favorite one…is "Can you help me understand?" I'm signaling that what you're doing is not making sense to me, but I'm acknowledging it might in part be my understanding of what's going on. And I would love to get to a different place. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran  

Episode 206: How to Mourn the Loss of a Sibling with Annie Orenstein, Author of Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners Guide to Grief

No one checks in on them, right? They often delay their own grief, put off their own mourning in order to support their parents and step up. But then? They remain there and they never really get a turn to express their own grief, or to be the mourner in the room. Annie Orenstein ~ Author of  Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief    Do you have a sibling? Most of us do. And according to author, Annie Orenstein, as children, we often spend more time with our siblings than with our parents. Yet as we grow, our sibling relationships are pushed to the background as we form other adult relationships in our lives. So what do you do when a sibling dies? In her new book, Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief Annie recognizes the painful, difficult role of a remaining sibling when losing a brother or sister. Our siblings are the only true witnesses to so much of our childhoods and who, "understand the workings of our families." If the sibling dies before parents, grieving is even more fraught as the remaining sibling feels the need to lessen the parents' burden. Further, the death of a sibling is often met with the question, "Were you close?" as though the answer allows the degree of acceptable mourning. Annie notes that the simplest gift we can give someone who has lost a sibling is to ask, "What was their name?" to allow the sharing of memories. Annie recognized the need to address such questions when finding little to guide her through the loss of her own brother. As she explores the stages of grief, she breaks down experiences in sections noting life with, without, and finally within, as she met both her grief and her joy in life with her sibling in this poignant and funny (yes, funny!) read. Such fundamental change is a part of life, but knowing that doesn't make it easier. Part of living a Brilliantly Resilient life is facing such challenges and finding the way through that's best for you, regardless of "what's expected."  For more of Annie's wisdom, tune into this week's episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: Siblings should be naturally our longest shared relationship because we meet them before we meet our partners and if things go naturally, our relationship continues after the loss of our parents. Statistics show that in childhood, siblings spend more time together than with their parents.  We shared our childhood with these people. They are in many instances the only other people who remember our childhood and who understand the inner workings of our family, who understand our parents, for good, bad, or ugly.,  It is terrifying to see your parents lose a child and to see that kind of deep grief. And it's known as a double loss because you really do lose your parents to some extent in that loss, because they're never the same. Someone will ask how your parents are doing but not ask how you're doing. They are really well meaning, but what you take away is, 'Oh. were we close enough that I'm allowed to grieve? Am I? Why is no one asking if I'm OK? I guess I'm supposed to be. The simplest question you can ask someone who has lost a sibling is, 'What was their name?' You don't get to say their name anymore. It feels good to say their name again. Ask how they lived, not how they died.  Be sure to buy Annie's wonderful book, and let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran

Episode 205: Empowering Those Who Stutter, with Nolan Stuttering Foundation President, Brian Nolan

"I'm trying to open stutter more. Because I I've reached a level of of acceptance that I'm proud of, but I'm nowhere near where I need to be. I interview people on podcasts who openly stutter, and I'm so proud of them because they do it without shame and that's the real issue. The real issue is shame, every day, when you stutter." Brian Nolan President and Co-founder, Nolan Stuttering Foundation   Have you ever heard someone stutter? If you don't stutter, it can be uncomfortable to know how to react. Do you try and finish the person's sentence? Do you look away? Do you simply wait?  While a non-stutterer may be at a loss, according to Brian Nolan, a life-long stutterer and President of the Nolan Stuttering Foundation, a non-stutterer's discomfort pales in comparison to the shame, embarrassment and pain of someone who stutters. As humans, speech is our major means of communication, one we generally take for granted. But as a stutterer, Brian notes, "Especially as a kid, every day you wake up, you think through the lens of someone who stutters and you think about the people you're going to have to see, how you're going to have to talk in class. Am I going to have to read? And you're like, I just have to get by the day, every day." For those who stutter, the stress of having to plan every moment of a day's communication seems simply unbearable. Stuttering isolates individuals, from childhood throughout every experience in life. Having gone through every challenge personally, Brian and his co-founder, Joseph Donaher, created the Nolan Stuttering Foundation (NSF) to help teens and young adults who stutter prepare for major transitions in their lives while persevering through challenges to become the best version of themselves. Those who don't stutter can help, too. When encountering someone who stutters, Brian advises we "look, listen, and give the gift of 100% attention." As Brian says, "We who stutter, we have grit. We who stutter, we have empathy. We who stutter, listen carefully. And we stay in a conversation." The rest of us can respond in kind. Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we know that we can find our Brilliance in our challenges, but it's rarely easy. When we respond to others with patience, empathy and understanding, we can not only help others find their Brilliance, but uncover some gifts of our own. Tune  in to this week's podcast to hear more of Brian's wisdom and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: Stuttering is a neurological disorder and the part that's miss understood is people think you stutter because you're nervous. Two-thirds of the people who have it, it goes away by the time they are 7 or 8. The 1/3 of the people who get it and it doesn't go away by 7-8, it's not curable. Ever.  I'm a public speaker. I talk for a living. If you would have asked me when I was 16 if I was going to do that, I would have said oh, wow. Fact is my dad said, Brian, think about being a computer programmer because you don't have to talk to people. And that was really, really, really, really sad for me. Because you see, I pretended to be an introvert because that meant that I wouldn't have to talk much.  People who stutter, they get that look from people who are looking at them like what's wrong with him. And so they they look away…or they finish our sentences. That gives us more shame.  I am still so uncomfortable stuttering on this podcast. I will switch a word and you won't even know it because I'm so good at switching words. But there's shame in that, because I can't say the word (I want to use) now.  You can actually order something you don't even want. Can I tell you how many times that happens? Yeah. You  order a coffee because you can say coffee and because you don't think the person in front of you is gonna have the patience or you don't want to be embarrassed. No one talks about stuttering in families. It's the biggest secret everybody knows about. And maybe if we don't talk about it, it'll go away. And that makes it worse. Now my biggest fear is that a young kid is not going to go to college or not apply for a job because they're afraid of the interview process. So now I run workshops for kids who stutter. We practice interview skills, we practice disclosure. This most important thing you could do is to disclose. Hey, it may take me a little longer to get things out because I stutter, but it doesn't mean I don't know my stuff. The people who stutter need to stop being covert, and they need to reach out and get involved with one of the many stuttering foundations that are out there like the Nolan stuttering.  Be sure to check out the Nolan Stuttering Foundation. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran  

Episode 204: How to Love Yourself, with Best-Selling Author (And Ellen DeGeneres Favorite!) Rachel Madorsky

"Here's the myth I want to break: that self-love is selfish. The more we love ourselves, the less attention we have on ourselves and the more generous we become in a very natural, easy, relaxed way." ~ Rachel Madorsky How to Love Yourself in Less Than a Week and Also for the Rest of Your LIfe   Do you love yourself? Does even reading the question make you uncomfortable? And if it does, why? If you squirmed a little reading the above, you're not alone. Most of us will gladly think about those we love and share that with others. But ask us about self-love? Yikes. Rachel Madorsky is a psychotherapist, executive coach, speaker and best-selling author of the book How To Love Yourself: In Less Than a Week And Also for the Rest of Your Life. (A short, delightful read that was featured in Ellen DeGeneres' first ever 12 Days at Home Holiday Box in November, 2023!) After battling with depression, Rachel experienced a turning point when a fellow student in a personal growth course turned to her and said, "All of this would get better if you would love yourself." As Rachel notes, "In that moment I felt like someone just gave me the cure, and at the same time I wanted to say what does that mean? It's an easy thing to say but no one tells us what it means or how to do it." On this episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, Rachel dispels many misconceptions about self-love, most notably that far from being selfish or self-indulgent, self-love frees us from negative focus on ourselves and gives us more time and ease to love and be generous with others. She also makes a topic which many find uncomfortable, unthreatening and accessible. Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we don't shy away from tough topics, and self-love fits the bill. Rachel advises regularly asking "What is the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?" Fortunately, the answer needn't involve huge steps. Even the smallest step towards self-love and self-care can change the trajectory of a life. As Rachel notes, "Small hinges swing big doors." Tune in to this week's podcast to hear more of Rachel's wisdom and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: When we ask a question of ourselves and we listen to the answer and we say yes and do the thing, we are building self-trust at a whole new level…. No one can actually give us the things we need most better than ourselves. We think that being hard on ourselves is the thing that will make us better. But the more forgiving, and loving and generous we are with ourselves, the faster the healing, the more we're capable of giving, the more we're capable of receiving. It's important to forgive ourselves and say "I was so human in that moment." We think we are being so loving and forgiving to everyone else, but another truth is we can only take someone as far as we are willing to go. So if we start giving from the overflow (of our own love) rather than our own depletion, it's a higher quality of care for others. Everyone is always worthy of more love. Open the door for more love. You can exponentially expand your ability to give and love, and giving and receiving is a circle. The more we actually allow ourselves to receive the more we have to give. There is a distinction between taking and receiving. Receiving makes you feel satisfied. Small hinges swing big doors. If we were in a boat or a plane and we changed direction by only 2 percent,we would end up on a different continent. A very small action repeated can change the trajectory of our life. Any place we can add more sweetness with the intention of growing our self-love knowing it will grow love for others is a life changer. Be sure to find Rachel on her website and social media: hello@rachelmadorsky.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-madorsky-lcsw-3233374/ https://www.instagram.com/rachelmadorsky/ https://www.facebook.com/RachelMadorskyAuthorSpeakerCoach/ The Book:  How to Love Yourself in Less Than a Week and Also for the Rest of Your LIfe Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran

Episode 203: Adaptive, Sensory-Friendly Clothing for Kids with ”Sense-ational You” Founder Julia DeNey!

I led an independent study on making adaptive clothing for autistic children in partnership with a preschool….I couldn't get a job during Covid so I started working in special education and trying to figure out how to turn the study into a brand. I could see how these kids were really struggling with things and how we could add sensory tools to clothing to help these kids throughout their days.  ~Julia DeNey, Founder "Sense-ational You" Clothing Have you ever had a tag rub against your neck in your clothing? The sensation is irritating, to say the least. But to a neurodivergent child with a sensory disorder, the feeling can be like a knife cutting the skin, sending the child into sensory overload and causing major challenges to just making it through the day.  Julia DeNey graduated from Cornell University with a B.S. in Fashion Design in 2020. During her college years, Julia also established and ran a volunteer organization in partnership with an area preschool for autistic children. After hearing the concerns of both teachers and parents, Julia began to think about using her fashion degree to design clothes to empower special needs children and help them navigate their world.  As Julia explains it, neurodivergent kids experience the world differently. That can mean anything from autism, to ADHA, to sensory processing orders and beyond. Sometimes, sensory overload means exactly that—a child cannot process one additional sensation and loses control. Julia wanted to create clothing with tools built into it to help kids manage their reactions and emotions, allowing them to feel in control in a world that can easily overwhelm them.  She says, "I wanted this fashion to be used to not only make the clothes more stylish, but more useful for their needs.We have a hoodie with built in sound reduction and an eye mask for a sensory avoider and an adjustable sensory compression vest for sensory seekers. The kids can have their own little sensory break just with what they're wearing." Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we know that when we combine our inherent talents with learned skills and then stir in some passion, Brilliance is born, and Sense-ational You is a perfect example. Tune in to this week's episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast to hear more of Julia's strategies to build resilience in neurodivergent kids and listen for these additional Bits of Brilliance: Adaptive clothing is clothing that's specifically designed for people who have different disabilities and needs so that clothing is more accessible to them. They can put the clothing on themselves and it's more comfortable. When people don't recognize that others may experience things differently, those sensory needs are often categorized as being difficult, or dramatic, or they just need to get over it or they're spoiled and you're catering to them too much. That's where the education comes in because it's not a little thing to them. Their cup of sensory input is full and they just can't handle it anymore. To say just learn to deal with it isn't the answer because it's not always the (same thing), it's whatever makes their cup overflow in that moment. For kids who have sensitivities, it feels like a tag can be cutting into them. We can't compare what we experience to what they are experiencing…. Our clothing is sensory friendly. There are no tags and all of the seams are flat, so nothing rubs against you. We also added additional sensory tools into the clothing, whether they are a sensory avoider or a sensory seeker.  Having some of these tools in the clothing itself means it's one less thing for parents to remember to carry around because parents never have enough hands. The tee shirt I designed has compression built into it if the child needs it. Allowing kids to have some control is incredibly empowering and really comforting and eases a lot of anxiety. They think -- Well if I have this garment on I know that I"ll be able to control what I'm experiencing -- to a degree. The ability to dress and undress yourself can be really hard for special needs kids. That's why we have magnetic closures and elastic waistbands…it allows kids to gain that skill and work on their fine motor skills…and allows more convenience and independence in dressing. It's so important to talk about this (special needs and neurodiversity) and normalize this so that future generations understand it. These clothes help to create more universal acceptance of these differences. Follow Julia via the links below, and Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! Website Link: https://shopsenseationalyou.com/ Instagram Link: https://www.instagram.com/senseational_you/ Facebook Link: https://www.facebook.com/shopsenseationalyou XO, Mary Fran  

Episode 202: How to Create Your Own ”Order of Things” with Author Sarah Gormley

I'm a gold star chaser…. If you just give the right answer, everybody's happy. I started this pattern of doing what my parents and the world wanted. It took me a long time to figure out there's another way…. The gold stars make it really easy to ignore your gut. Sarah Gormley Author of The Order of Things   Have you ever done something not because you wanted to, but because you thought you were "supposed" to?  From the time we're young, we learn what we're "supposed" to do. Behave, answer the test questions correctly, make the right choices. But what if the "right" choices are wrong for us? What if we do what we're "supposed" to do but don't get the result we've been promised? By all outward standards, Sarah Gormley did what she was supposed to do. She had a great career in corporate America, lived in New York and was highly successful. But she didn't feel successful, or happy. It wasn't until Sarah's mother received a devastating health diagnosis that Sarah began to reevaluate her life and her choices. In her poignant, humor-filled new book, The Order of Things, Sarah tells how a return to her childhood home on a farm in Ohio made her reevaluate her choices as a "gold star chaser." A believer in both therapy and self-reflection, Sarah describes The Order of Things as a "self-hope" book, offering a true story that reminds the reader it's never too late to live the life you are meant to live and to discover joy. Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we've seen how easy it is to get lost in what the world says we should want and do to make us happy. It often takes a sucker punch or train wreck that, while initially devastating, can be the push we need to make decisions that are right for us, not the rest of the world. It takes courage, intention and a willingness to be vulnerable, but as Sarah confirms, it's oh so worth it. For updates on The Order of Things, check out Sarah on Instagram at @scgormley. Order your copy of The Order of Things here, and tune into the podcast for these additional bits of Brilliance from Sarah: If I go do the "things," I'll catch up. I'll start to feel better because I'm doing the "things." That's what I thought the order was…go do these things and life will be fulfilling. I thought there was an equation. Well guess what? There's no equation. One of the best things about therapy was that it helped me to understand things. What helped me recalibrate was understanding my childhood differently. If you understand things differently, a lot of anger and pain evaporate. Why is it so terrifying to be our most genuine selves? I love the term 'recalibraiton.' It's about making little changes. Sometimes nothing is more unexpected than joy. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran  

Episode 201: Ending Food Insecurity while Offering Dignity and Respect with the Warminster Food Bank

Food insecurity relates to choices that people have to make economically. The choice between a prescription drug or buying food; the choice between buying gas or buying food, the choice between buying school supplies and buying food. We serve over 3,000 local families a year--a definitive need that lies below the surface. Mike Cerino: Executive Director, Warminster Food Bank When was the last time you ate? When was the last time you stopped at a Walgreens or CVS to pick up a necessary prescription, or drove to Costco to fill your car up with gas? Now, when was the last time you had to choose between those things because you couldn't afford to take care of all three? Mike Cerino is Executive Director of the Warminster Food Bank, located in Warminster, PA. Along with his assistant Melody Latare and other volunteers, Mike sees people forced to make such choices all too often.  Food insecurity can affect anyone at any time, given a sudden illness, job loss, or other challenging circumstances. Yet in the suburbs of large cities, as Warminster is to Philadelphia, food insecurity is unexpected and therefore often hidden in plain sight. The problem is compounded by the shame and embarrassment frequently felt by those in need. The Warminster Food Bank strives to not only meet their guests' physical needs, but to treat each person with dignity and respect, building community and shared humanity along the way. Mike and Melody note that volunteers often get just as much out of their service to others as those receiving assistance. Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we recognize the power of service, both to those served as well as those offering their service. We also know the importance of refusing to judge others' circumstances and instead bringing our transferable skills to help in any way possible. With a budget that's risen by $4000/month since Covid, and at this time of year, the Warminster Food Bank is in greater need of food to serve those in need. Please visit www.warminsterfoodbank.org for a list of current foods needed, and to learn more. Tune in for these additional bits of Brilliance from Mike and Melody: I'm tired of people saying others show up in expensive cars to get a basket of food. When the Escalade you're driving becomes your house, it's not that an impressive a car any more. People are embarrassed and ashamed. The more we build awareness in the community, the more people will be able to come to us. The stigma of it will disappear. There's a hunger for people to be treated with dignity; there's a hunger for people to be treated with respect. That's (also) the hunger that we serve, which is why we call the people we serve our "guests." Food isn't a gift or a privilege, it's a right.  Vision: To reduce or eliminate local food insecurity. Mission: To provide services to those in need in a way that preserves dignity and respect. Passion: to offer an outlet to those who want to help others so they can improve their lives. Be of service and share your Brilliance. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together. XO, Mary Fran

Episode 200: Bringing People Back to Food with The Farm at Catawissa Creek

Everyone needs food. Everyone should be concerned about how it's being grown. Anne and David Darling ~ The Farm at Catawissa Creek How many times a day do you eat? How many times a day do you think about what and when you're going to eat? (My husband says he can always tell when I'm talking to my mother because we're talking about food!) Now, how many times a day do you think about where that food is coming from? Anne and David Darling, the young farmers who are the "stewards" and owners of The Farm at Catawissa Creek, and this week's guests on the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, are intent on making others aware of our relationship to food. As young farmers, the Darlings are, sadly, a rare breed. Their passion for growing healthy food and encouraging others to appreciate farms and their place in our society is a welcome and necessary reminder of the importance of farming and the soil that provides our food. Neither Anne nor David grew up as farmers, but their desire to be of service and answer a higher calling, along with an openness to the opportunities provided by the universe, led them to farming and each other. Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we LOVE when folks find their Brilliance in service. When you lead with your heart, the best of you follows. The Darlings brought all of their transferable skills to their passion and are truly living a Brilliantly Resilient life. Be sure to check out the events, farm to table meals, workshops, yoga classes and the pure beauty of The Farm at Catawissa Creek.  Tune  into the episode here, and be sure to listen for these additional bits of Brilliance: We wanted to attune to the highest possible good. What's the highest good we can provide for not only humans, but the planet? Do something bigger than yourself.  We are missing a relationship to the soil. Everything comes in a box, everything is packaged. We're disconnected from soil and from nature.  You have to think of soil as being alive. It's a home for our food and so many creatures. We have to respect it.  We bought our farm from a farmer who spoke to over 5000 people about selling his farm. The farm used to be the crux and central hub of the community.Young people are not going into farming. Let's be Brilliantly Resilient together! XO, Mary Fran